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Sunday, January 20, 2008
Current mood: thoughtful

First time I had a crush:
I was a faithful little girl. From kindergarten to 5th grade, I had a crush on a cute kid named Brian.

First serious crush (at that age you think you’re in love, but as an adult you look back and see two different levels of “love”):
12 years old or so. A friend of my sister’s came to the house to say bye to her. She wasn’t home. We hung out, spent several great hours together, I got my first romantic kiss, and then the next day he moved to Brazil. Misery!

First time I had a boyfriend:
13 years old, soon after I got breasts. After a few weeks, he broke up with me because I wouldn’t go to 3rd base.

First time I had an orgasm:
15 years old, in my brother’s closet (he had a cot in there) with a guy I met at music camp. He moved down to do cunnilingus and I was so turned on that he was willing to do that, that I came right when he got there. LOL! I even passed out from it.

First time I had sex:
16 years old, in the family’s Volvo, in the winter, inside a sleeping bag, with a Chinese-American musician. I think I rushed this stage a bit because after my first encounter with cunnilingus, I hadn’t found anybody else interested in doing it. I was noticing at that age that if you don’t have sex, guys ask for blow jobs, yet for some reason most of them don’t offer to reciprocate. I assumed that if you’re in a complete sexual relationship — having sex — that oral sex comes with the package. In my case this did turn out correct, but, I didn’t have any more orgasms. Bummer!

First time I had a girlfriend:
17 years old. The physical part didn’t last long, but I stayed friends with Terrie for many years after that. In fact, she’s the dyke gal you see in one of my first Bondage Life photos. It’s a black and white pic, she’s lying on a sofa, blindfolded, chains on her. Some people thought that pic was of a guy.

First time I seriously “fell in love”:
17 years old. We were together for about a year but most of it was rocky. It ended rather badly too. But he emailed me many years later, and we smoothed things over. I think it’s kinda nice as an adult to be able to get back in touch with people and do mutual apologies and settle the ol’ “we were young and stupid” thing.

First time I was in an orgy:
I don’t remember my age. Our little social group (nicknamed “The Commune”) had several group-sex things during my high school years. (There wasn’t a lot of parent presence at my house when I was a teen.)

First time with two guys:
21 or 22? My boyfriend of the time had a bi buddy who was interested in him. My boyfriend couldn’t work up any interest in a guy/guy encounter so he suggested a threesome instead. I had a very good time with this but since the guy was from out of town, we never got around to doing it again. Incidentally it takes a tremendous amount of work, patience, time, and physical arranging to get two cocks into one pussy. It doesn’t become a “sexy” moment until you’ve gotten all the technical stuff figured out. (I think we were fortunate that the friend was undersized because even as it was, I had some difficulties.)

First time consented to anal sex:
22 or so. We understood how to do it so it wouldn’t hurt me, and he was happy. But I just don’t find the idea sexy, so I haven’t done it since.

First time I orgasmed from sex:
23 or so, but this was an anomaly and hasn’t happened since. I come from very specific types of clitoral stimulation that are near-impossible to combine with fucking.

First time tied up during sex:
24. Even as into bondage as I am, it still was kinda scary — so we just did hands-in-front.

First time orgasmed tied up:
24. Hee

First time I figured out how to masturbate by hand:
I was dependent on vibrators for many years. I read a lot of stupid articles and books and advice about how to masturbate by hand, but none of it ever worked. I finally figured out how to do myself “au naturale” when I was about 30 years old.

First time I had multiple orgasms:
When I was in my early 30s, I think it was? It was just one of those things that simply happened (right time right place right everything, thanks Jon!) but I haven’t had another multiple-event like that since. But that’s okay, sequential orgasms are fun — I can generally manage them several minutes apart.

Well, looking back over this list, it’s funny that so many of my “firsts” were things that I only did once in my life. But it’s just nice to experience something and know what it was like, right? As long as I can keep repeating the tied-up-for-sex and tied-up-for-orgasms stuff, I’m happy.

Friday, January 18, 2008
Current mood: anticipating
Category: anticipating Movies, TV, Celebrities

Today I’m going to go see Sweeney Todd again.

I thought I would give some advice to anyone who plans to see this wonderful film.

If you buy any food at the concessions stand, eat it before the movie starts. You won’t be in the mood during the film.

lol!

Thursday, January 17, 2008
Current mood: loopy

5 days ago I woke up with a stiff neck I couldn’t turn… thought I’d slept wrong… well after 5 days I knew I can’t possibly be sleeping THAT wrong every time, lol

Went to the chiropractor and he said my alignment was off in a weird way that hasn’t happened before. Hmm, haven’t done any unusual bondage positions lately…

Anyway back pills make me loopy, so now I can’t focus and can’t get any work done.

Just sitting here stoned. Sigh….

Wednesday, January 16, 2008
Current mood: relaxed

[this blog post includes replies that were received via MySpace]

A Hobby is an Addiction when “polite” “mainstream” “society” doesn’t approve of your hobby.

For instance if your main hobby is collecting stamps and you spend most of your life’s free time collecting stamps, that’s a hobby.

If your main hobby is square dancing and you enroll in every annual rotation of the local square dancing club chapter and you spend hundreds (or thousands) of dollars a year on your matching couples’ costumes, trips, hotel rooms, entry fees, and spend hours learning choreography and attending square dances… that’s a hobby.

If after work every night you go home and work on your patchwork quilts, that’s a hobby.

If after work every night you go home and log into World of Warcraft and hang out with friends in there and go on quests and collect cool stuff, that’s an addiction… so they say.

If after work every night you go home and surf the internet and collect well-done bondage pics from websites, that’s an addiction…. so they say.

Cough.

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Actually, I think some counselors say that the sign of an addiction is if it interferes with your work life, personal life or family life, or is a major influence in preventing you from having a work life, personal life or family life. That, I think, is a much better way to determine whether something is a hobby or an addiction.

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Doc - Artist & Writer

Bravo

Posted by Doc - Artist & Writer on Wednesday, January 16, 2008 at 11:10 PM

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Richard

The thing to remember is that there is no such thing as an addictive pastime. The only external addictions that are medically recognized are those that cause physical dependencies such as drugs and certain medications where there is a chemical cause and effect.

There are people with addictive personality disorders. What I’ve seen is that, when somebody forces such a person to abandon an activity that they obsess over, they find something else to obsess over. Sometimes, a person, with an obsessive compulsive personality will turn to religion to cure themselves of their “addiction”. That person will then pursue religion with the same obsessiveness that they did with their other addiction. They haven’t been cured of their underlying problem. They have merely transferred one addiction for another that is more socially acceptable.

I did a blog comparing porn addiction with sports addiction. In every instance where one can show something detrimental about porn addiction, I found information that showed that a sports addiction was worse. There was even a war started because of a sporting event. I’ve yet to see porn cause a war. The blog has links to back up every fact.

PS: Please dump the CAPTCHAs. They cause a problem with dialup where the letters on the screen don’t always keep up with the letters required for acceptance. The letters keep changing and the download of the visual occurs after MySpace has internally changed the ones that are acceptable. People on dialup are typing in letters for a visual that is no longer being used. I never had a problem with the old system where the letters stayed on the screen. With the new system, where the CAPTCHA image keeps changing, it takes me a half dozen tries to be in sync between what’s on the screen and what is being accepted.

http://blog.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=blog.view&friendID=48765996&blogID=197367450

Posted by Richard on Thursday, January 17, 2008 at 6:10 AM

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Pete Puma

Well stated and wholeheartedly agreed with from this enthusiast!

Posted by Pete Puma on Thursday, January 17, 2008 at 11:56 AM

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Duct Tape Messiah

well said

Posted by Duct Tape Messiah on Sunday, January 20, 2008 at 7:28 PM

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Andre

Then I must be in need of serious medical attention. After my real world job I come home and sketch a few damsels in distress pictures, prep a few pictures of models that I tied up, surf and download my favorite bondage pix (incl. Bedroom Bondage and American Damsels, thank you), then download a few well-done pix of women posing in sexy dresses and heels wearing pantyhose. Guess I must be a head case and a half!
-Andre;)

Posted by Andre on Monday, January 21, 2008 at 3:55 PM

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Tuesday, January 15, 2008
Current mood: craving
Category: craving Food and Restaurants

I was a picky eater growing up. I survived mostly on hot dogs and sloppy joes. My parents gave up on forcing me to eat other stuff, and wound up most nights making a single hot dog along with whatever else was being made for the rest of the family.

During my teen years my parents were somewhat MIA (as were many parents of my friends’). For this time period I survived on Mac N Cheese at home, and Taco Bell tostadas, and Olga Dogs at Olga’s.

One of the few disappointments I’ve had with California is, there are no Olga’s Restaurants out here. What gives!

I recently told Jon that after living here for 20 years I’m just now coming to terms with the fact that I will never have another Olga Dog in my life. (weeping)

Jon said “Why don’t you make them yourself?”

Obsessive idiot that I am, I went ahead with this project, and it was an adequate success. I mean I could never make an actual Olga Dog — Olga guards all her recipes — but it was close enough to make me very very happy!

Today I was in the kitchen chopping up onion bits and Jon came in. I warned him this would be the first and last time he ever saw me do anything even CLOSE to actual cooking. LOL

Those reading this who know me well, will be amazed that I did even these few little steps just to have a pseudo-Olga-Dog.

Olga Sauce (kinda)

2 parts Greek yogurt
1 part sour cream
li’l bit garlic
li’l bit cayenne pepper

Mix and put in frige overnight

Lunch next day:

Microwave hotdog partway (half min?)

Put pita on plate and load on:
Olga Sauce
Olga 3-cheese (swiss cheese, cheddar cheese, colbyjack)
li’l bit chopped onion
li’l bit chopped cucumber
More cayenne pepper (beCAUSE! lol)
Curly fries (yes, directly into the Olga Dog, several curly fries. we got today’s curly fries from Jack in the Box)

Drop the hotdog on top of this

Microwave it all the rest of the way (half min?)

Roll it all up in the pita and eat your Olga Dog while Olga Sauce dribbles all over the place.

Yes, it’s basically a Gyro with hot dog meat and nummy warm sauce instead of crappy cold sauce. Olga knows that. I know that. But gyros don’t come close!

nom nom nom nom nom nom nom….

Monday, January 14, 2008
Current mood: silly

[this blog entry includes replies that were posted via MySpace]

Hi Lorelei,
I am writing on behalf of the organizers of (bondage convention), to ask if you would have interest in teaching a class at (bondage convention) this year. If so, what would be your requirements to be with us?
(–convention organizer)

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Hello (convention organizer),

For transport I will require:
(2) First class plane tickets, round trip, no stops, Burbank Airport to Chicago O’Hare
(1) Limousine with driver, available each day 10am to 12midnight

Each day of my stay (including partial days) I will need the following:
(1) Personal assistant
(1) Bondage model available from 10 am to 10 pm
(1) Male performer available from 10 am to 10 pm (must be willing to wear gorilla costume)

For accommodations I will require:
(1) Suite consisting of 2+ bedrooms, kitchenette, conference table, living room, high ceilings

Containing:
(1) Pair new bunny slippers (womens)
(2) New purple bandannas, prewashed
(1) Wooden suspension frame
(1) Steel tetruss suspension frame
(1) Box Tic-Tacs (red/cinnamon flavor)

In my hotel room I will require the following items provided and refreshed daily:
(1) Custom-color purple M&Ms, 7-oz bag (unopened)
(1) Fresh pair fuzzy purple socks (womens)
(1) Dozen fresh Lilac-colored roses in vase

Food/drink provided and refreshed daily:
(1) Package of Hickory Farms cheeses, crackers, sausage & dijon mustard (unopened)
(2) Bottles of Apple Juice (refrigerated)
(1) Case of Barq’s Root Beer Cans (refrigerated)
(1) Quart Nonfat Milk (refrigerated)
(1) Tray Deviled Eggs (refrigerated)
(1) Bag of Cheeto’s repackaged as “Cheezy Poofs”
(1) Box Quaker Oats Chewy Bars (peanut-butter/chocolate chunk flavor NO VARIETY PACK!)
(1) Deli-style tray of fresh fruit (must include grapes and strawberries) and raw cut vegetables with Ranch Dip
(6) Bottled water
(1) Dannon strawberry yogurt
(1) Finger-sandwich assortment platter
(1) Jar sweet mini pickles

At 10 pm each night I will need a meal delivered to the room containing the following:
(1) Personal-size goat-cheese pizza
(1) Order chinese food of sesame chicken (saucy) with fried rice, plus warm won-tons
(1) Olga’s(tm) Cheese Dog with Olga sauce and cayenne pepper, plus Olga’s(tm) curly fries

Just kidding… Wanted to give y’all a giggle. I don’t think I’ll be able to attend.

Have fun,

–Lorelei

11:34 PM - 8 Comments - 5 Kudos

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Lorelei

BTW if you don’t get what I was doing here, visit
http://www.thesmokinggun.com/backstagetour/index.html

Posted by Lorelei on Monday, January 14, 2008 at 11:57 PM

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Duct Tape Messiah

Was going to say, that’s one hell of a rider you’ve got there. You forgot to arrange the M and Ms in separate brandy glasses

Posted by Duct Tape Messiah on Wednesday, January 16, 2008 at 8:45 PM

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RACH

HAHA, Okay you had me for a mintue…As I read I keep thinking Lorelei is just not like this (rude lol )
Hope you have fun I sure miss that side of my life, I havn’t been to a party or a event in ALONG time…
Miss you too
Nice to see you online and in good spirits:)
xoxo

Posted by RACH on Wednesday, January 16, 2008 at 8:45 PM

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Pete Puma

I love the Cheesy Poofs…As long as they are not delivered by Mr. Hanky.

As always, you rock!

Posted by Pete Puma on Wednesday, January 16, 2008 at 8:46 PM

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Domanick

“wHAT NO kabola water?

Posted by Domanick on Wednesday, January 16, 2008 at 8:47 PM

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Richard

I’ve gone down the list and I can handle everything but the Olga’s Cheese Dogs. Is that a deal breaker?

Posted by Richard on Wednesday, January 23, 2008 at 7:16 PM

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Friday, November 10, 2006
Current mood: content

[this blog entry includes comments that were received via MySpace]

I’ve noticed that there’s a point where a person begins to lose their youthful flexibility. I’ve also noticed that the cases I hear about where models got shoulder/arm nerve damage, were not usually models in their 20s. From my observations, somewhere between mid 30s and mid 40s, a person’s body begins to lose flexibility. Riggers have to be sensitive to this and not “crank” a lady’s elbows together behind her back. Just because I’ve seen photos online that show that a model was able to get her elbows together easily a few years ago, isn’t a reason for me to assume it’s still doable for her now.

Anyway I noticed I began to stiffen up some years ago, so to work with that, I don’t do long-term elbow bondage any more. For instance during sex, Jon generally adds the elbow-rope last.

For some reason, though, lately I’ve been a bit more flexible than usual, so that’s given us some fun. Last time we were in bed, Jon did a lotus-hogtie with elbow bondage on me, used the vibrator on me, had sex with me (that takes a little doing with the hogtie), and then used the vibrator on me again afterward. I was really surprised and happy.

And he didn’t even have to “crank” my elbows - they went together pretty easily all on their own

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Pete Puma

Obviously you guys are a good case for the benefits of patience and adjustment! Sounds like you are having most excellent times!

Posted by Pete Puma on Friday, November 10, 2006 at 9:46 AM

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cyber_tease

At age 52 I’m certainly not as flexible as I was and it’s almost impossible for me to get my elbows together behind my back (though in part this is due to injury). But a buckled harness tightened patiently a notch over time can add to the fun and teasing and achieve the desired effect

Posted by cyber_tease on Friday, November 10, 2006 at 5:06 PM

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Duct Tape Messiah

Lotus hogtie during sex, but you’re not as flexible anymore, color me confused. I’m continually impressed with your abilities, regardless of age (then again I’m a year or two behind you and I have arthritis, it sucks)

Posted by Duct Tape Messiah on Friday, November 10, 2006 at 7:14 PM

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WestBound

You think that`s bad?, take a look at my profile photos. I can`t even get my elbows anywhere near each other never mind touching which i would love to achieve.

Whatever`s making you more flexible at the moment shouldn`t be pondered, just enjoyed

Posted by WestBound on Saturday, November 11, 2006 at 11:04 AM

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Richard

Hey, we’ve got to get you in front of a camera again!

Posted by Richard on Saturday, November 11, 2006 at 2:11 PM

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I Put The “F-U” In Fun

Mmm.. Elbow bondage.. Your right though when you want to really enjoy some bondage you need to try to stay good and flexible. I recently joined the.. *gasp* gym because I noticed I’m not quite as bendy as I used to be

Posted by I Put The “F-U” In Fun on Wednesday, December 13, 2006 at 6:50 PM
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Tuesday, September 19, 2006
Current mood: uncertain

[this entry includes replies that were received on Myspace]

Hey all, sorry I haven’t been at MySpace in a long time… we’ve been trying to deal with the bank problems. I don’t have time today to catch up (Buddy the dog is vomiting blood so I’m taking him to the vet in a bit). Just to keep folks abreast I’ll copy/paste here what I announced in the Yahoo Group a few days ago.

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“BB leaps into the void”

Well, as of today I don’t have a merchant account at all.

On the bright side, this means I can put ALL of BedroomBondage.com back up. Yay!!

On the down side, if I don’t find a new merchant account by the 30th (with which to renew most of my members) BB will tank.

Hope to see you all back at BedroomBondage tonight, to enjoy its restoration to its former self. At least no matter what’s gonna happen, first we’re gonna have two weeks of unbridled fun!

–Lorelei
http://www.bedroombondage.com

12:15 AM - 5 Comments - 2 Kudos

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Pete Puma

Keep your chin up and I hope your pooch feels better!

Posted by Pete Puma on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 at 12:55 PM

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Duct Tape Messiah

[insert loud lengthy earth-shattering string of swearing and cursing here]

Buck up L, things will turn around eventually.

Posted by Duct Tape Messiah on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 at 3:35 PM

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thomas

I love what you done with the bedroombondage.com.

Posted by thomas on Friday, September 29, 2006 at 11:02 AM

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Thursday, August 17, 2006
Current mood: whelmed

[this entry includes replies that were received via MySpace]

We’re back, we’re tired, we’re “coming down”… and now it’s dawned on us that the trip didn’t really come through for us this time.

Generally, the annual bondage convention is our one chance each year to try to get away from regular stresses and be a little romantic and re-connect with each other. Somehow this year it didn’t happen; we socialized the whole time, were rarely alone, no romantic dinner occurred, and we didn’t even get any windows of time to have sex!

So I’m vowing right now, to make sure that next year we make time for a little romance.

We did have some fun on the trip. The best part for me was seeing Kiri Kelly after all these years. We’ve kept in touch with emails and phone calls, but seeing her in person and getting to play with the ropes together was absolutely wonderful.

I also shot two sets with attending models, and tied up Pandora during the Friday night party in our room. She must feel really used by me — every time I see her, all I want to do is truss her up

On Saturday night we tried to go to one of those after-hour parties at a local nightclub. As usual the music was so loud, no one could have a conversation. I’ve wondered if this is a “guy thing” — that guys put the music that loud so that a man & woman talking have to get within one inch of each other to hear. Because I got the distinct sense that the guys were enjoying that requirement, but the women were annoyed by it. How fun to have to be brushing breasts up against some guy I’ve just met so that I can hear wtf he’s trying to tell me. Yuck. LOL

I guess another source of downer right now is that I’m having trouble getting the two sick dogs to eat. It’s really no big deal if a dog wants to eat light or skip a meal once in a while. But in the case of a sick dog, where you mix all sorts of important, expensive medications into the dog’s food and then they don’t eat it… Man!

For anyone who’s curious about my bank situation, my site is still operating at half-mast, and apparently it’ll take another two weeks to process my application for the overseas merchant account. In the meantime I can’t link my site to anybody else’s site, and I have to keep adding “consent bondage” photosets for the updates. I’m getting verrry, verrry bored of consent bondage. I’m still a ‘captive’ at heart.

Okay back to the grind, I have several dozen emails here that I gotta research and answer. Grumble grumble grumble… lol

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Duct Tape Messiah

Ah Kiri Kelly, that takes me back. The mischievious girl next door in my mind’s eye. So the trip wasn’t entirely wasted, although I am curious how you managed to smuggle your *gear* to the location via airplane past airport scanners and security without incident (aside from the security’s obtuse interest in flash bulbs) As to the music, it might be a guy thing but it’s not THIS guy’s thing. I can’t stand totally loud club music that you can hear the person next to you. Ridiculous.

Consent bondage ? Grinning faces behind gags and all that goofy stuff? Not a hint of distress ?? ‘Feh !!

Posted by Duct Tape Messiah on Thursday, August 17, 2006 at 3:59 PM

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Lorelei

The airlines don’t seem to care what’s in checked baggage. We’ve always checked our load of lights, tripods, camera accessories, ropes, ballgags, etc etc with no problem. Oh! This time around, some guy searching our tripod bag DID giggle about the ropes and say something like “Woo! Someone’s gonna have fun.”

Posted by Lorelei on Friday, August 18, 2006 at 1:40 PM

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jim bondage

Add me to your blog.I will give you a nice slap.

Posted by jim bondage on Wednesday, September 06, 2006 at 3:08 AM

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Lorelei

Pardon?

Posted by Lorelei on Tuesday, September 19, 2006 at 12:16 PM

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Friday, July 21, 2006
Current mood: beaten down

[this post includes replies that were received via MySpace]

Some folks may have noticed that BedroomBondage is no longer linking to this blog! Nor linking to my bondage forum. Nor linking to my yahoo group. “Hey,” the astute observer says, “Bedroom Bondage isn’t linked to anywhere! And most of the public webpages are missing! Hmm!”

My ex-merchant bank made an offer I couldn’t refuse. They said if I cleaned up my site to their satisfaction, they would take me (& my poor innocent-bystander husband) off the Fraud list, and start rebilling my members again.

This is fairly agonizing for me, but at the moment, I don’t have a choice. They won’t take me off the List unless I come back to them, and my site has to be super-duper-clean for them to reactivate my account. Not only do I need to be off that list, but so does my partner.

I’m boned. (nod to Bender of Futurama)

So, I’ve already “cleaned up” the public area of the site, and by Sunday night, the member area will be partially expurgated as well. On Monday the bank will be calling to see if I’ve performed to their liking.

Once my record is cleared, I’m still gonna search overseas for some other bank. I want my real website back! Waaaaah!

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/First_they_came

–Lorelei

http://www.bedroombondage.com

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John

Wow that is such bs with what they are doing to you. It does seem like you may have found a loop hole though with making them happy with their stupid ideas of what we all want while you try to find something overseas. I am pretty sure once you get a better backer than these jabroonis things will go back to normal. Wea re all rooting for you and good luck, we know that you can do it and find a way around these morons.

Posted by John on Saturday, July 22, 2006 at 4:47 AM

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Richard

I’m sorry to hear that you’ve had to do this to keep your site open. I hope you find a more viable billing company because this doesn’t come across as the kind of bank that you want to continue doing business with.

What can the average person do to fight the growing censorship that we’re under? Sadly, it’s a topic that doesn’t interest the media. The things that are happening are barely being noted. The end result is that more people are debating whether Britney is a good mom than issues like this.

We can write out Senate and Congress representatives, but that’s something few people ever do even when they’re upset over the state of the country. Jay Leno’s monologues, when the FBI unveiled they were going after porn, were probably more effective than what most of us can accomplish. Other talk shows were afraid to touch the issue.

It looks as if HR 4472 is going to become law.
http://www.govtrack.us/congress/bill.xpd?bill=h109-4472
This is a bill which has riders attached to it that have nothing to do with child protection. One of the more ridiculous provisions requires new, unreasonable paperwork requirements for tracking every single image on adult websites. When the attorney general told law enforcement agencies, that one of his high priority tasks would be to enforce these new provisions and perform audits of adult producers, these agencies balked. They would have to divert resources, from units needed to go after sexual predators of children, to check paperwork of adult producers to see if they had IDs (mostly driver’s licenses) of all the models/performers they worked with. It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that the kind of criminals, sexually exploiting children, aren’t checking to see if the kids they’re abusing have driver’s licenses. It’s not as if most of our politicians are geniuses.

Posted by Richard on Saturday, July 22, 2006 at 5:36 AM

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Duct Tape Messiah

Bugger all,

‘Tis a long dark day indeed when the merchants can tell their customers how to behave and not the other way around. Sorry to hear about all this trouble, Lorelei.

Posted by Duct Tape Messiah on Saturday, July 22, 2006 at 6:59 AM

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Chuck

Dear Lorelei, I’m very sorry to hear that the “thought police” have hassled you again. I get a similar problem in Memphis: the schmucks have decided they can tell adults what to look at or read. I sincerely hope you find a MUCH better merchant bank. Regards and Respect, Chuck Foley.

Posted by Chuck on Saturday, July 22, 2006 at 7:23 AM

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Connie

You can sure say that again, it is getting to be that we no longer have any rights, and please don’t take this the wrong way, but we have to get Bush and that crowd out of Washington DC and put a better person in who will stand up for all of our rights.

Posted by Connie on Sunday, August 13, 2006 at 1:04 AM

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ROBOTHIPSTER

“Fraud list?” I have been a member of your site a couple of times .. you never frauded me? What a bunch of a-holes! Hell, the last 6 years have been repression city! Getting worse and worse.

Mark

Posted by ROBOTHIPSTER on Tuesday, July 25, 2006 at 10:08 AM

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Doc - Artist & Writer

This is horrific…. I agree with previous posts; whatever you guys want to organize against bullshit like this, put me on the list and let me know.

Posted by Doc - Artist & Writer on Wednesday, July 26, 2006 at 11:32 AM

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Kris Johnson

Fuck ‘em. Do what you have to do in the short run, but don’t sacrifice what you really want to be.

Mad respect for looking out for your husband in the deal. You’re a stand up person.

Now straighten this out so we can all prove stand up people that are into kinky shit can win too.

Yours in the fight…

Kris

Posted by Kris Johnson on Sunday, July 30, 2006 at 11:39 PM

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Phreestyle

I thought the USA was supposed to be the land of the free. What the hell is happening when bankers become the watchdog of morality? What training do they undertake in ethics and morality that allows them to make judgements about what intelligent thinking humnan beings should or should not see?
This situation strikes me as a very slippery, and very dangerous, slope and a futher erosion of personal freedoms.
Oh well take your cash to Europe and deny these wankers (oops sorry, bankers) the use of your money.

Posted by Phreestyle on Friday, August 11, 2006 at 8:38 PM

Thursday, June 08, 2006
Current mood: tired

[this post includes comments that were added on MySpace]

I managed to finish the website updates for Bedroom Bondage and American Damsels, so now I’m coasting again.

Thought I would talk about what I do late at night in Second Life.

Second Life is one of those chat worlds where you have a character of your own, which you use to move around and interact in a 3D environment. Basically these “virtual worlds” are pretty much like if you had a live cartoon running, and you were operating one of the cartoon characters, and other people were operating the other cartoons, and you were spontaneously creating a cartoon movie as it went along.

What I’ve been doing there lately is, some friends joined up with me and we got some virtual land, and we built a bondage ponygirl ranch. My two friends are ponygirl characters most of the time so they like the ranch stuff, and we all like fooling around with the bondage equipment. We have wooden bondage wheels, suspension frames, steel cages, wood cages, etc. For some reason we don’t have an X-cross yet, which to me seems pretty odd since every bondage place in Second Life does. Guess I’ll have to fix that.

Late at night I hang out at the bondage ranch and chat with strangers who show up to the place. I ran a little ‘virtual ad’ so that people can find where we are. Most of the time I’m dressed up like a big bunny lady, but sometimes I’m human (hippie, mostly). And recently I bought a pony body so that I can occasionally take a little run around the track. Around 11pm Jon comes in to see how I’m feeling and keep me company. I’ve dressed his character up variously as a police rabbit, a gorilla, and The Crooked Claw.

I’m sure it all sounds very silly — well, indeed it is. That’s why I find this stuff such a pleasant distraction.

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Lorelei

When I had to take the chat pages off my websites I put up an ad for SecondLife in its place… so here’s info… and when you get there just send me a message, I can send you some stuff http://gagtalk.com/chat/

Posted by Lorelei on Thursday, June 08, 2006 at 7:19 PM

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Charlzm

I tried Second Life earlier this year (or last year, maybe) after your mentioned it on Bedroom Bondage. However, the video card in this rig leaves somethign to be desired and I couldn’t get the world to load smoothly no matter how low I set detail and frame rates.

Oh, well, it looks like hours of fun exploring other peoples’ houses and domains. I learned to love MMORPGs after I got over my suspicion of them; I played Asheron’s Call for about a year.

But I found when I met my bondage-liking girlfriend about four and half years ago, I suddenly found I just didn’t have the time (or really the interest) for pretending to be a monster-slaying warrior any more.

Posted by Charlzm on Thursday, June 08, 2006 at 7:41 PM

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willingly submitted

Sounds interesting, i’m going to try it out!

Posted by willingly submitted on Saturday, June 10, 2006 at 8:03 AM

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Stan

I made a whole bunch of neat bondage stuff, including an X-cross thingie which I can give to you next time I see you online. You need to show me around Lorelei’s Ranch o’ Bondage

Stan

Posted by Stan on Wednesday, June 14, 2006 at 10:03 AM

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Lorelei

Hey Stan, hail me — what’s your inworld name? My accounts are Lorelei Mission & Taly Fluffy.

Posted by Lorelei on Wednesday, June 14, 2006 at 10:13 AM

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Tess

Kinky: Constantly adjusting your SL avatar so that the bondage gear in the game fits better.

See you at the ranch.

Tess

Posted by Tess on Friday, June 30, 2006 at 11:02 PM

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Lorelei

OMG lol, so true. I prefer to be 5′2″ in SecondLife, but all the bondage equipment seems to be sized for amazon women. So yeah, sometimes I wind up re-setting my height to 5′10″ just so that I can fit the bondage wheel, etc.

Posted by Lorelei on Saturday, July 01, 2006 at 3:41 PM

Wednesday, May 24, 2006
Current mood: discouraged

Ashley Renee phoned and told me that CCBill (her billing company) appears to be flinging itself into a content clean-up project.

They contacted her about her website several times in the past week with various removal requests - made her unlink BondageDirectory, then
BondageGirls, then made her take a bunch of photosets and clips off her site.

Ashley said she asked a staffer by phone “why am I being targeted right now?” and the staffer claimed that CCBill has been told by their merchant bank to clean things up (paraphrasing here). The staffer said maybe the reason Ashley was one of the first sites contacted during this cleanup, was because Ashley’s site is near the beginning of the alphabet.

A staffer also related to Ashley that CCBill now has 15 staffers currently working on this project and that spiders were being used to check CCBill client websites to check for “forbidden” words & metatags, and links to “forbidden” sites.

In one of the written notices she got, Ashley was told to remove one set because the man grabs her from behind in a hallway before tying her up. CCBill informed her that the sneaking up from behind looked “non consensual” and therefore was a violation of their “no rape” rule. (?!)

Ashley related to me that CCBill went thumbs-down on most of her two-person sets because they said she looked unhappy in the pictures — “nonconsensual” themes.

A drawing was required pulled, categorized as “extreme violence” because it depicted a damsel in distress approaching a buzz saw. Of course, the damsel was not shown injured or contacting the saw.

Ashley has a big archive of material so she brought out some of her solo-bondage classics to fill up her photo-site again, but it’s very upsetting that a lot of her work is now on hold and can’t be seen.

For curious folks who want to see CCBill’s AUP
(Acceptable Use Policy, aka “What’s Obscene”), string together this URL (myspace futzes it ptherwise) and then scroll down to the big paragraph: .. tiny url period com slash o48cx

–Lorelei

P.S. I emailed all my CCBill members and asked them to switch to one of my other billers. I don’t think I could manage renovating my site to the degree of vanilla-ism that CCBill now expects!

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Dark Minded Promotions™

Now that is one of the stupidest things I have ever heard of. CCBill is probably doing this because of how the Government is still cracking down on adult sites and might be cracking down on the companies used for all the pay sites. Such BullS*it! As long as the person has signed a consent paper (not going into the whole legal wording here) then it should be fine.

Posted by Dark Minded Promotions™ on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 at 8:57 AM

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John

What a crock of you know what! Like CCBill had no idea what Ashley did when she signed up with them.. I mean come on!!! Sounds like them going with the government and stepping all over the rights of these great performers, withtheir logic of thinking than shouldn’t they also not show anything I don’t know like say King Kong since Faye Ray doesen’t seem to happy when she is kidnapped by Kong or shouldn’t PETA get it taken out of stores since it shows an animal being shot to death? I know dosen’t seem to make sense but those examples just show how stupid CCBill is being.

Posted by John on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 at 10:36 AM

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Doc - Artist & Writer

Censorship sucks! This is a total load of crap that we, as bondage site masters/contributors, see all too often - but when CCbill gets cold feet to this degree, we’ve got to wonder how far off the end of this ‘free speech’ party is. Granted, we’re still in a period of conservative values overseen by an increasingly ‘Big Brother’-esque government, and hopefully this will pass… but this doesn’t bode well, does it?

Posted by Doc - Artist & Writer on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 at 11:28 AM

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Jungle Man

UNBEFRIGGINLEIVABLE!!!! John above has some very excellent points using the Kong analogy. This whole war on pornography scare is getting waaay out of hand. What in the world happened to free speech and the ability for consenting age approved ADULTS to see what they choose to see? I find it very strange that people can write internet fiction at a free site that any child can get into, that is hundreds of times more graphic and dangerous not only describing rape but brutal torture and eventually snuff with no repurcussions, but if a simple abduction scenario is shown in a photo at a secured pay site they get threatened by the government or whatever host they use. Meanwhile, the hypocrisy continues as movies like Hostel come out and instantly become “the number 1 movie in America” it’s opening weekend. Once again, don’t get me wrong, I loved Hostel, I just wonder how long it’s going to take before the government is controlling every form of entertainment we love, and every piece of information we get once they have a stranglehold of the internet.

Posted by Jungle Man on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 at 12:05 PM

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Richard

Lorelei can write volumes on credit card censorship and it’s been going on for quite a few years now.

The thing that concerns me a lot is that the media has been fairly silent about the topic. Even Visa, the primary credit card censor, has been reluctant to publicly say much about their censorship efforts.

It just makes me glad that I didn’t take a major plunge to set up a full paysite. I would have lost a lot of money. I feel especially bad for people, like Ashley and Lorelei, who are trying to earn a living from their sites.

Posted by Richard on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 at 6:37 PM

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Duct Tape Messiah

And somewhere in Washington D.C., George Bush, Pat Robertson and Jerry Falwell are clinking their brandy glasses together, giggling like 6-year olds.

I think George Carlin said it best, “It’s time to start slapping people.”

Posted by Duct Tape Messiah on Friday, May 26, 2006 at 8:46 AM

Wednesday, May 24, 2006

[this post includes the myspace comments that followed]

Just got this email…:

Hi Lorelei, I am fairly new, okay way new, to bondage. I have been trying to get my husband to get in to bondage, well just tying me up, but he is not into it. Any ideas on how I can get him to try it out?

I replied…:

Hi,

Most of the advice columns I wrote were for men, to get their gals interested.
http://bedroombondage.com/bondage/lorelei

But I know where you’re coming from because I’ve talked to women whose guys weren’t quite as into it.

In my opinion, when they’re not into it, the best we gals can do is “trade time” with them… let them know that if we did a half hour of vanilla sex last time, well, this time it’s gotta be a half hour of bondage sex. If a guy isn’t willing to meet us halfway, then there’s something wrong! LOL

The tying can be confusing for someone who isn’t into it. Make up a set of long cloth strips
http://bedroombondage.com/bondageu/drbondage/materials.html
…and ask him to tie you with those. It’s less intimidating for a guy, than trying to use rope.

Just my 2c

–Lorelei

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Lorelei

Note about silk scarves, folks. Do not use the whole scarf and then tie the knot near the ends. If you tie the thin ends into a knot, they’re hard to untie. Whenever tying with scarves make sure you leave nice long ends so that the knot will be easy to untie when needed.

Posted by Lorelei on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 at 4:50 PM

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Jeff Tucker!

Life is too short to spend it running from what makes you happy.

Posted by Jeff Tucker! on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 at 2:12 PM

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Crystal’s in Love!

instead of using rope, try using something sexy or “sensuous” so to speak. Something like a sash from your robe. And just start off with asking him to hold your hands above your head. and tell him you like it when he “overtakes” you. he might be more interested in it, if it turns into more of a power thing. initially, anyway. Make it seem like ur doing it for him. Hope that helps!! i am pretty new myself.. about 6 months or so. Good Luck!!

Posted by Crystal’s in Love! on Friday, June 02, 2006 at 2:32 PM

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Animal Instinct

As a man whose ex-wife used my enjoyment of BDSM to manipulate me, I can say that where sex is concerned, men are dogs (woof!). When she had done something to make me angry, she would go upstairs, place herself in bondage gear and call me up to have my way with her, offering to do “anything I wanted her to do…”. Somehow it was so much easier to forgive her in a smiling, sweaty state.
My suggestion for you to emulate her may not be sexually ethical, but here I believe the ends justify the means. You can tell him once you are bound you will do something he wants you to do but were reluctant to do unless helpless. If you give him a taste of your submission, how can he resist further exploration.
Start with simple items, like handcuffs and tape. Later on you can introduce each other to more complex restraints like chains and ballgags. Pantyhose and phone cords are good to use for those “spontaneous” bondage sessions when he can take you “by surprise”.
If Nike can get him to pay $300 for a pair of shoes, you should be able to get him to hogtie you without too much effort. Be well.
TxBondDom

Posted by Animal Instinct on Saturday, June 03, 2006 at 12:12 AM

Sunday, April 30, 2006
Current mood: annoyed

I keep getting emails on this, so I’ll just address it publicly for the last time.

There is no real Andrea Neal on myspace.

Here are some tips to help you when evaluating fake Andrea Neal myspace pages. Of course, as soon as the fake Andreas read this, they’ll try to fix their pages, but…

*Andrea was a very reserved person. She didn’t swear. The fake profiles like to have her calling other people names and swearing. As if!

*No, she does not have a boyfriend. Some of the other ‘personal’ touches on the fake myspaces are likewise bull.

*Andrea worked by the hour for photographers, and she never had her own photographer. So she didn’t own the copyright to any of her modeling pics. Some of the fake profiles are sporting pics labeled “copyright Andrea Neal”. That’s impossible.

*Andrea is currently in a new career in which her old modeling career is NOT a plus or something to emphasize. She will NEVER, NEVER put up a myspace page reminding people of her old career as a model. People who are making fake Andrea pages are jerks who don’t respect the real Andrea’s wishes.

There you have it.

–Lorelei

P.S. I have tried to get myspace to delete the fake profiles, without success.

Sunday, April 02, 2006
Current mood: giggly

[This entry includes all the comments that were added at MySpace]

Rich Reynolds wrote this in another forum and it totally cracked me up:

” I’d still love to see somebody, running a[n unauthorized] photo-sharing site, either buy some material, or shoot their own, and share the photos for free– and allow others to post those photos wherever they want. It would be nice seeing them sharing content they paid for instead of content somebody else paid for. For some odd reason, when it’s their money on the line, they’re not so willing to share. All their justifications about a free internet and valuable promotion go out the window. “

Rich put that so well. I’ve had quite a few image-thieves tell me I should either be grateful to them because they ‘advertised’ me, or they say that everything on the internet should be free. Yet Rich has a point — have any of those people ever paid a model by the hour and then given away the results… and rights?

If anyone knows of someone who did, please let me know. It would be cool to know of an exception.

–Lor’

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Jungle Man

Wellll, this may not be exactly the same thing, but internet artists such as MR. X and Nightwing 316 certainly do spend their money on programs such as Poser, as well as spending their own time, to provide quite a bit of material for people completely free of charge. True they have pay sites as well, but I’m sure in their mind they are 2 completely different animals.

Posted by Jungle Man on Sunday, April 02, 2006 at 1:07 PM

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Charlzm

Hang with me for a minute. I’m long-winded, but I have a point.

The people who take photos used in fashion magazines, make television shows for networks or record for major record labels don’t try to sell their wares directly to the public. They have a distribution network to do that for them. Or, more in line with reality, a distribution network has the creative types to do the work of providing content for them.

As we all know, Napster killed that model. It’s still intact and working, but the poison has been ingested and its days are numbered. People want the freedom to choose what entertainment they will consume and when and where they will do so.

Major distribution channels will adapt in some way, but there is a really good chance that, in the intermediate future, there will be no (or very few) actual record stores, Blockbusters, multiplexes or newspapers.

This is sad, just as it was sad that the village blacksmith and the buggy whip makers went out of business when horses were supplanted by cars. But it’s going to happen any time there’s a major change in the way the world works.

So, combine the internet and peer-to-peer distribution and the joint consumer feelings of “I want it when/where/how I want it” and “I’ll get it for free if I can”, and we have the recipe for the end of the old model.

So… how does this affect Bedroom Bondage.com? I can’t really say. But to pose the argument of “if people had to pay to make it, they wouldn’t be so quick to steal it” I think sort of misses the point. Yes, it’s a valid viewpoint. It’s a variation on the golden rule and I fully believe it to be true. But I don’t think that’s the solution.

There will always be those who will take advantage of another for their own gain. The easier it gets (internet), the more often it will happen.

I used to work at a record store. And a movie theater. I saw the writing on the wall and I moved on (true, for various reasons other than this, but those are not growth industries). Perhaps all the internet sites we love will do the same.

It’s hard to predict, since porn is the last big industry that big industry doesn’t want to get into. Maybe they’ll just try to crush it out via regulation. Oh, wait, isn’t that already happening?

I don’t have a solution, but the problem is both bigger than the golden rule and yet based on it as well. I’m curious to see how it all plays out. As the Chinese curse says, “May you live in interesting times.”

Posted by Charlzm on Sunday, April 02, 2006 at 1:26 PM

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Whiplash Studio.com

While I like what Charles point, there’s one flaw in it: When the people who pay to make it (photos, movies, music whatever) stop making it because other are giving it away for free online, then why make it in the first place? When it becomes unprofitable for someone to make a movie or for L to take photos like these, then were are the pirates going to get the stuff to post. If movie theatres and record stores go away, then why are musicians and movie makers going to keep making movies and music if they can’t make money off of it? They won’t and when they go away, this “free” internet market is going to go away as well. Someone has to spend money to make the entertainment for someone else to be able to steal it and put it up for free. I think the argument of “if people had to make it that wouldn’t be so quick to steal it” is right on the point. If the people making it went away, the people stealing it would have no one to steal it from, thus, no product to post online. There will always be someone out there making it and unfortunately always someone out there stealing it.

Posted by Whiplash Studio.com on Sunday, April 02, 2006 at 2:20 PM

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Charlzm

Snidely/Tom:

There will always be new blood coming into any industry. “American Idol” is the biggest thing on TV, yet album sales are down and not getting any better. There will always be ways to entice new dreamers into the factory. It’s just going to be tougher for them to get in and tougher for them to stay in.

Movie attendance is down and going down. Sales of recordings in brick-and-mortar locations are down and getting smaller. This isn’t supposition; it’s happening and has been for years.

I’m not suggesting that people will stop trying to make movies or record music. I’m saying that they will find news ways to create product and new ways to distribute it to the consumer will be created or developed.

Look at internet porn sites: when a new venue for distriubution opened up, there were the porn makers. They were among the first to creat direct-to-consumer video content. I’m sure they helped push a revolution in publishing to make small, niche magazines profitable (as Robert Q. Harmon how he did it back in the 70’s).

My point is that the tried and true will remain that way. People will always want to consume their chosen entertainment. But who makes it, how it gets to the consumer and how it will be paid for are all in flux.

I sincerely hope Lorelei and our other favorite websites find a way to stay ahead or at least keep up with the change.

Posted by Charlzm on Sunday, April 02, 2006 at 7:30 PM

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Duct Tape Messiah

*Raises his hand*

I did it. I did it as a form of viral marketing for a website that no longer exists thanks to new federal laws and my latent desire to protect friends from government idiots with tin badges. Also did it to throw a small gauntlet in the face of presumption that it can’t, it shouldn’t, it mustn’t. And I’d do it all again in a heartbeat. I guess the thrill of being an amatuer is that you can focus on your love of the creation and no so much the potential cash you can be making. Ce la vie

Posted by Duct Tape Messiah on Sunday, April 02, 2006 at 4:27 PM

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Richard

Most paysites give away free material because it’s a nice way to let potential customers know whether or not they’d like what’s on the site and they’re not paying for something that’s a complete unknown. Somebody sharing their own work isn’t an issue. The issue is with somebody deciding it’s okay to share someone else’s work. That sharing isn’t limited to only posting the free promotional samples–it’s sharing sets right off the paysite.

What spurred my post, in Lorelei’s BB club forum, was a poster intimating that it was okay for sharing sites to distribute photos from paysites because it was free advertising. It’s not just the photo sharing that’s annoying, but the grating self-rationalizations that photo sharers have that they’re somehow doing producers a favor by giving away their material. I’m sure that they go to bed crying themselves to sleep because of all the ungrateful photographers who don’t appreciate their tireless unselfish devotion to promoting their work. I always wonder if they believe their own bull.

A lot of photo sharing sites have mission statements about how they respect the work of the paysites they’re “promoting” and how, if somebody likes what they’re giving away, they should join the site (like the sharer with dozens of sites stealing photos must be doing). Any time a producer asks them to stop posting their work, the real colors come out. Suddenly, the true petulant childish nature of the sharers is out in full force as they blast and insult the producer for daring to tell them to stop giving away the copyrighted material for free. Somehow, these sharers mysteriously know all the sales figures of the producers, whose work they steal, because they always seem to be absolutely certain that they’re increasing those sales by giving away photos they don’t own. Nobody ever sees these people putting their money where their mouth is–they’re much more comfortable putting somebody else’s money there. The few times that a photo sharer has gone pro, and saw their paid images being posted on the net for free, words like “sharing” and “promotion” were replaced with “stealing” and being “ripped off”. They didn’t seem to believe anymore that giving away paid work was a sure-fire means of increasing sales–or at least not when it was material that they bought and paid for. Payback be a bitch.

The simple reality is that photo sharing sites are put up to get free photos and the people doing it couldn’t care less about the impact on the people’s works that they’re stealing. All they care about is getting stuff for nothing. They don’t care if it hurts the business of the people who created the images. It would be nice to see them stop pushing their self-lies.

With the FetishCon in Tampa, anybody, with the desire to be a bondage photographer, can hire a model and shoot whatever fantasy they want to see. Just once, I’d love to see one of these sharers hire a model long enough to do two sets and put them both up on a token site. The first set would go up without sharing the photos. They second should be put up on their sharing site and then, after a few months of being given away for free, placed on the token site. That way, if they’re not bright enough to figure things out all by themselves, they can find out once and for all that giving away one of the sets doesn’t result in increased sales.

I’m not trying to bust on people who visit sharing sites for photos, but don’t post stuff they don’t own. I understand that people getting something for free would rather do that than pay for the same thing. They’re not helping me earn a living off my photography, but at least they’re not giving away the material I paid for.

As far as there being a new business model, that will eventually happen between using the law to go after copyright violators and forcing computer manufacturer’s to put in copyguarding hardware on all computers. The technology that makes it easy to share can also make it impossible to share or even own digital content. That, sadly, is the direction that things are going. It’s already been done to VCRS/DVRs. It’s only a matter of time till it happens to computers. New video cards are already being designed to prevent watching hi-definition movies on computer DVD drives. There will always be a way that a few people will get around the technologies and those are the people that the law will go after.

This isn’t the way I want things to go, but there’s nothing I can do about it. I’m not a player in the copy protecting world–that’s something that only the big companies can do. My only recourse is to stop selling my photos. As is, the $8-$9 a day I’m making in token sales (the sum of all the incomes from dozens of sets) makes it hard to want to take the time to photoshop new sets.

Between the legal threats of obscenity prosecutions, credit card companies censoring what their cards can be used for, and ever increasing sharing, more and more fetish photographers and models are going to disappear. Censorship is making it harder to earn money from customers willing to pay and sharing sites are taking away potential new customers and drawing away former paying customers. If it was just one threat, maybe fetish producers and models could survive, but a two-pronged attack chipping away at what little money is being made is going to knock out most of the small players and eventually even the larger ones. Companies, like Harmony, have cut their staffs and no longer have a stable of salaried video directors like they did a half dozen years ago. The thing that’s really sad is that the cost to actually purchase photos isn’t all that bad. Somebody can join Lorelei’s BedroomBondage site for $16 and be able to download 9,000 photos. There isn’t a pictorial bondage book or magazine that can be bought with that kind of deal (if there even is something out there to even purchase anymore).

I never expected to get rich photographing my fantasies (it’s a shame at being right on that count). I was hoping I could at least make back the costs of shooting them and I’m just barely doing that right now. If it gets to a point where it’s not worth putting new material up for sale, dropping out won’t be a big deal. I’ll still have all my photos to look at and that’s the main reason I got into it. I’m more concerned for other photographers who count on those sales to make a living.

I won’t hold my breath too long for a photosharer to actually share something they paid for.

Posted by Richard on Sunday, April 02, 2006 at 6:09 PM

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Duct Tape Messiah

Take a look at the post above yours…..

Posted by Duct Tape Messiah on Sunday, April 02, 2006 at 7:21 PM

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Richard

I saw your post and couldn’t make much out of it. You did viral marketing, whatever that is (spam?). What laws made the site go away (2257 requiring proof of ID when photos were being used and only the original copyright owner has the proof)? You haven’t outright said that you gave away photos you paid for even if you’re alluding that you did. There aren’t any in your profile to indicate that you have any original material. You didn’t name the site that’s now defunct. I’m not sure what gauntlet you threw “in the face of presumption that it can’t, it shouldn’t, it mustn’t.”–the website?–the photos?–not the gov’t because the site folded rather than face risks of whatever unspecified new laws you were worried about.

I’ll have to wait for some clarification from you or somebody else that might have better understood what you said. If you’ve really given away your own photos on your photo sharing site, that’s great. You’re a rarity. It still wouldn’t make it right to give away photos that others depend on deriving income from. If you really like and respect the photographers, whose work your using, you’d ask permission to use some photos and respectfully not post them if they don’t want them posted. Anything else is disrespectful. Don’t expect anybody to believe that you’re doing them a favor if you’re using their images without their permission. Paysites will post some images for promotional purposes, but I don’t know of any sharing site that limits sharing to only those photos. I don’t know a single photographer who thinks it’s okay for any and all of their photos being up for grabs. It’s one thing for the copyright owner to share some, or all, of their photos. It’s another to have others posting them against the desires of the owner. Since you don’t mind sharing your photos, where might they be seen?

Posted by Richard on Sunday, April 02, 2006 at 10:06 PM

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Richard

It all seems to be part of a malais that is affecting the country–which is a sense of undeserved entitlement. I don’t mind that somebody wants free stuff. I want free stuff. The difference is that I don’t expect to get a lot of free stuff and don’t get all bothered and angry when it’s not forthcoming.

More and more, it seems as if we’re dealing with a society that, not only wants things (which is not bad), but expects them as a given without ever having earned them. That’s the problem with angry whiners who feel they’re owed free photos. Not only do they feel some mysterious entitlement to those freebies, but are so entrenched with that belief that they even feel the right to complain if those freebies aren’t quite what they want and see nothing wrong with attacking the person giving them something for nothing. They don’t quite understand the concept that they’re getting what they paid for.

Maybe having been poor as a child and having pretty good parents has given me a different outlook on life. I had to pay my way through college. I had to buy my first car. There was never a moment when I expected my parents to pay for these things. They barely were making ends meet as it was. I never had a chance to grow up feeling privileged. I know somebody at work that was going to give his daughter his six year-old car when he bought a new one and she refused it because the car wasn’t cool looking. I cannot even begin to imagine how spoiled this kid had to be to expect that she had a choice in what her first car could be–at least not till the guy actually took out another loan to get his angel a cool brand new car. Every time I see a news story at Christmas time about idiot parents standing in line for a day to get the fad toy of the year, I see more reasons why kids grow up with messed up values. They weren’t told “no” often enough as kids when they wanted something.

You’ve got to chuckle at people who claim they cannot afford $10-$20 for access to a paysite. What’s that, 2-4 hours at a minimum wage job where a week of afternoons will set them up for a year’s membership?–Or cutting out a couple packs of cigarettes?–Or bringing in water from home instead of buying sodas from vending machines for a week? It’s not the kind of money that requires mortgaging the home. Generally, if a person can afford a computer and internet access, coughing up ten bucks isn’t going to break the bank. Sometimes money’s tight and hard decisions have to be made where discretionary money is spent, but $10-$20 for thousands of photos isn’t an insurmountable amount of money or a particularly bad deal. Much as modeling seems like a glamorous job, I don’t know many bondage models that earn enough income that it’s their full-time job. Their regular job is often something like waitressing or some other low paying job that has flexible hours so that they can do shoots without too much hassle. There’s usually no health benefits or retirement plans. Modeling is a youth oriented job, so work declines as models age. If you like a particular model, and getting a membership doesn’t require a monthly trip to the blood bank, kick in a little money at the model’s paysite to show some appreciation.

Posted by Richard on Tuesday, April 04, 2006 at 9:52 PM

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Charlzm

I remember that modest little site back in the day. HAd some of Lorelei’s Bettie Page inspired shots of you tied to an upright bed frame or something like that.

Hey, why the hell DID you start charging?!?

Posted by Charlzm on Monday, April 03, 2006 at 11:34 AM

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Richard

I almost wish somebody had named a real example of a photo sharer that had actually shared something they paid for. It would have been nice to shake away some of my pessimism. I do find myself getting more critical of life as I get older. With all the garbage we see through a lifetime, it’s hard not to get cynical.

I can’t say that there will never be a photo sharer that hires a model or buys photos from a photographer. It’s always possible that it may happen, but it’s an unlikely phenomenon. The reason is that the kind of personality that gravitates to giving away the work of a person, who requires that work to earn a living, is not the kind of personality of a person that naturally gives away what they earned and paid for. They’d rather adopt the appearance of generosity by giving away someone else’s property. Even that “generosity” is tainted with the expectation that sharing photos they’ve stolen will result in others sharing photos that they’ve taken from paysites. It’s all about them getting something for nothing.

I finally had some time to look up viral marketing and it’s just another buzz word for word of mouth. “Viral” refers to the act of convincing the original ad viewer to pass along the ad. Hotmail was the prime example given. Everybody that sent a message through Hotmail had a tag line at the bottom that offered a free Hotmail account that enticed the recipient to create an account and every message they sent advertised the service freely. Sportscenter’s funny, imaginative commercials, that get forwarded voluntarily from person to person, are another example of free viral publicity advertising Sportscenter. Word of mouth advertising has been a wanted component as long as advertising has existed. The original ad is just the means to create awareness. True market saturation occurs when customers carry on that marketing. Word of mouth is free advertising that is far more persuasive than the original ad. We’ve all become jaded by advertising and take their claims with a degree of skepticism. When a friend tells us how great a product is or how cool a movie was, we’re a lot more receptive and willing to give the product or movie a try.

Posted by Richard on Saturday, April 08, 2006 at 9:42 AM

Friday, March 24, 2006
Current mood: tired

I love the random questionnaires people do on myspace. Here’s one somebody else did so I picked it up for myself:

–> Spell your name without vowels: Lrl Smth (no, REALLY) (ok you don’t believe me)

–> What is the date 2 days after your birthday: Wha? March 10th.

–> How many pairs of jeans do you own: None. Well, there are a bunch in the model wardrobe room, but none of those fit me.

–> What color do you wear most: Purple variations. Lilac, lavender, purple and fuschia.

–> Least favorite color: Green? Pukey mustard?

–> Last song heard on the radio: What’s a radio? Actually, my car radio got screwed up about 3 years ago, and I haven’t listened to radio since.

–> What’s for dinner tonite: I had microwave lasagna.

–> Are you happy with your life right now: I’m managing.

–> Tell me a secret about one of your siblings: No, that’s their job.

–> Anyone ever said you resemble a celebrity: They said I resembled Jamie Lee Curtis. I coulda cried.

–> Who did you last call on your cell phone: Elise di Medici, she’s my buddy, my pal.

–> Do you own a…

- PS2: No

- XBOX 360: No

- PSP: No

- DIGITAL CAMERA: Bunches of ‘em.

–> Do you shop at stores like Hollister, Abercrombie & Fitch, American Eagle, or Aeropostale: I don’t even know what those places sell. I buy everything possible at food stores, if I can’t find something there I buy it on the internet, and occasionally I go to the Salvation Army, Staples, and Best Buy.

–> How do you make money: One or two days a month I tie up chicks and take their picture. I spend the rest of the month on my laptop running websites, with some desk work thrown in so that I can remain annoyed at the government for making so much stupid paperwork for people who are self-employed.

–> Last thing you bought over 50 dollars: We replaced the desk computer last month.

–> How’s the weather: It was super sunny today and yesterday!

–> Are you missing someone right now: Not at the moment, but earlier tonight I was missing my dad a little. It really angers me how since his death, more and more mailing lists have taken to sending him advertisements. Every day I get the mail and look at all the mail addressed to him and think about him.

–> What chores do you have around the house: I’m a dog lady. I feed the dogs, give them medicine, take them outdoors over and over, and clean up after them.

–> Finish this sentence. I wish I was __: I wish I was financially secure.

–> One word to describe you: Cuddly.

–> Favorite pair of shoes: My purple moon boots. They look kinda like Ug boots.

–> Do you own big sunglasses: Nope.

–> Do you find yourself attractive: Not exactly but I’m okay with looking like this.

–> Why is the first person in your Top 8 in the spot: I have crushes on some of these ladies that I’ve tied up.

–> What would you rather be doing right now: I’d rather be in SecondLife.com - it’s a ‘virtual world’, an online chat environment.

–> What should you be doing right now: I should be doing more computer work, but I’m too tired to concentrate any more, and I’ve learned not to work when I’m stupid. I just wind up making mistakes and having to re-do it all the next day.

–> Have you kissed your boyfriend/girlfriend lately: Yesterday

–> Last IM you received: There’s this guy in the Philippines who helps my site by prepping the digital photos. I IM’d him to tell him his website appeared to be down. He IM’d back and said it’ll be back up soon.

–> Who did you hug today: My husband and my dog.

–> Survey’s done. What are you going to do now: Try to finish catching up my MySpace mail, and then I’ll get a little time in SecondLife before I go to bed.

Tuesday, March 21, 2006
Current mood: amused

I cleaned my car yesterday and took everything out of it because next week I’ll be passing the car along to a friend.

In the trunk was a discarded tape-gag stuck face-down on the carpeting.

I’ve left that gag there for several years because it was a happy memory about one time I was tied up in the trunk.

I was pretty bummed about having to finally peel up the tape and throw it away.

On the bright side, I noticed a discarded tape-gag stuck to the carpeting in Jon’s car-trunk just the other day….

Friday, March 03, 2006
Current mood: hopeful

This is the big whammy season for me every year. My CFS combines with seasonal allergies and I spend lots of time in a mental daze or sleeping. So I’ve been a little depressed lately. However there have also been cool things happening so it’s almost like being a teenager again — one minute I’m tired and depressed and then a few minutes later I’m all excited, then I wear out and I’m depressed again, then I get a nap and wake up all energetic and ready to enjoy work…. LOL!

Money issues are hanging over me right now but this week things happened that really gave me hope. For instance Jon showed up at work with 5 count them 5 new videos that he has created! I was like wow where did all this come from? Apparently they got backlogged because Jon’s person who “authors” DVDs (captures the videotape, makes the digital files, assembles the DVD menus etc) had gotten way behind.

We found a new DVD author and Jon sent him these 5 videos this week. Last night the author was emailing me every few minutes with his progress. It was so efficient! He designed the main menu and emailed me a screen-capture of it. I emailed back that it looked good and no typos, so then he generated a mini video clip of it and sent me that so I could see the animation. I wrote back that it was good. Then he emailed me the sub-menus. And on like that. By the time I went to bed after midnight it was clear this DVD would be done by today — wow! And I got to check all the work online — that’s great because usually one has to wait until receiving the DVD master to find out whether there are any mistakes or hideous design flaws. LOL.

I’m really eager to see this first DVD that’s being finished. When the author sent me the animated menu, there was a sample clip of Alexis Taylor jumping up from a chair and hopping across the room tied up. It looks really cute so I want to see that on a full-size screen. I guess I will soon! Whee!

Thursday, February 09, 2006
Current mood: happy

Two topics today…

We finally added a membership area to Jon’s bondage site. Folks have been asking Jon to do that for a long time, so, there you are! Peeky at the tour & free pics at http://americandamsels.com/bondage/

I recently got to go to my first all-women BDSM play party. That was funnnnnnnnn!

I helped the set up crew, ran into a couple women I hadn’t seen in years, met some shiny newbies who were just so cute and wide eyed, got invited to sit on a Domme’s lap, and got to play. One of the new gals was open to trying & learning. So first she spanked me while we talked about ways of spanking. Then I tied her to a chair. She seemed to really like it so I kept adding more and more rope. She was quite snuggy by the time I finished.

I wore a corset outfit and bunny slippers for most of the evening, which tickled everyone to no end. The slippers got loose later in the evening so I had to rope them to my feet. That felt pretty funny. I had to head home before midnight so that my car wouldn’t turn into a pumpkin.

Threshold’s gonna add the all-women’s party as a monthly event, so now I’ll get to play with the gals regularly. Whee! If you’re in the Los Angeles area, join in the fun at http://www.threshold.org

–Lorelei

Wednesday, January 25, 2006
Current mood: amused

My fave thing about MySpace right now is getting these “personality snapshots” of all the people who are into bondage.

For years and years, through my bondage diary and websites and stuff, many people got to know me at a personal level, but at the same time I didn’t get to know many of them.

Every time someone trades a friend link with me here, it’s so fun to go to their page, look at their pictures, read their latest blogs, see what movies they like, etc. Get a sense of them. I love that!

We all have parts of us that are just so mainstream, mundane, regular, normal, typical — and then parts of us that our culture thinks are so keeeeenky. lol!

Tuesday, January 10, 2006
Current mood: amused

Last year a family friend asked me for my bio. They didn’t know I was into bondage so I had to come up with a bio that completely omits the main thread of my life. I also had to pretend that I don’t have two life partners instead of one. I came across the “expurgated” bio again this morning and thought I’d show y’all a copy of it:

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I was born in Michigan in 1963. I was the daughter of two teachers (Philosophy, English). Growing up I was heavily into the arts, spending a lot of time in orchestra, chorus, sculpture, etc. I went to college and majored in Music Composition for two years. (My primary instrument was violin.) I decided I didn’t have enough talent to be a composer so I abandoned that major. I finished up a different university with an interdisciplinary humanities Bachelor’s.

Michigan had a depressed economy at the time. I held various jobs such as carnival barker, wedding reception quartet, factory assembly worker, rental agent, bookkeeper. I got a chance to go to California to do magazine editing and video production, so I moved. After the internet became popular, I taught myself HTML (website building) and began designing and running websites.

Here in California I met and married my husband Eric. He used to be a history teacher.

Recent years were mostly taken up with my family’s crisis when my niece was kidnapped. She was gone for nine months before we located her, went to Greece and recovered her. Most of the Lilac Lane website grew up out of those events, and in a lot of ways LilacLane.com serves as an organic biography of my experiences:

http://www.lilaclane.com
Emotional Abuse: I put this site together because my sister was terrorized by her ex-husband.
The Left-Behind Parent: I made this site to help other people deal with it when their children are kidnapped.
Missing Child Tessie: While Tessie was missing, this was a very large website, but after we got her back I changed the site to just one page.
Stalking site: I was a victim of stalking when I was in college, and my sister was later stalked too, so I made this site.
Alex’s Funny Bone: We’re childless, so I made a website about my dog.

I guess my most important work is the Emotional Abuse website, which had 330,000 visitors last year. Sadly, many of the people visiting the site are teenagers who are being verbally abused by their parents.

Currently my husband and I live in the San Fernando Valley. We’re both self-employed so we work 7 days a week. We have two little dogs that we take to the park for walkies whenever we can. I’m now 42.

Sunday, January 08, 2006
Current mood: reminiscent

Current faves (they seem to evolve & change over time) …and stuff

Fave gag: duct tape gag

Fave bondage position: for myself, frogtie (and second fave right now is strappado). For looking at other gals tied up, I like to see them in chair ties.

Fave bondage material: currently, a set of kinda-thin nylon rope we got

Fave suspension position: frogtie suspension

Fave hogtie position: got ya! I’m not big on hogties. Heh heh.

Browser homepage: my “what’s new” page at BedroomBondage, because I use all the links at the top and bottom of that page

Bondage places I visit every week: my bondage forum, my BB yahoo group, Jon’s AmericanDamsels group, Andre’s yahoo group, and the yahoo group for bondage photographers.

Last person I tied up: Alexis Taylor

Last time I got tied up: last week

Where I got tied up: in the bedroom on the mattress

My personal essentials for bondage sex: duct tape, rope, Reality (the woman’s condom), big honkin’ muscle-massage vibrator.

Usual noises during a bondage sex session: laughing, sound of ropes whipping around hitting the blanket while being applied, more laughing, sound of duct tape pieces being ripped off the roll, heavy breathing, gag noises of “mmf mmf mmf mmf mmf”.