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Wednesday, May 24, 2006

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Just got this email…:

Hi Lorelei, I am fairly new, okay way new, to bondage. I have been trying to get my husband to get in to bondage, well just tying me up, but he is not into it. Any ideas on how I can get him to try it out?

I replied…:

Hi,

Most of the advice columns I wrote were for men, to get their gals interested.
http://bedroombondage.com/bondage/lorelei

But I know where you’re coming from because I’ve talked to women whose guys weren’t quite as into it.

In my opinion, when they’re not into it, the best we gals can do is “trade time” with them… let them know that if we did a half hour of vanilla sex last time, well, this time it’s gotta be a half hour of bondage sex. If a guy isn’t willing to meet us halfway, then there’s something wrong! LOL

The tying can be confusing for someone who isn’t into it. Make up a set of long cloth strips
http://bedroombondage.com/bondageu/drbondage/materials.html
…and ask him to tie you with those. It’s less intimidating for a guy, than trying to use rope.

Just my 2c

–Lorelei

8:31 AM - 7 Comments - 5 Kudos

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Lorelei

Note about silk scarves, folks. Do not use the whole scarf and then tie the knot near the ends. If you tie the thin ends into a knot, they’re hard to untie. Whenever tying with scarves make sure you leave nice long ends so that the knot will be easy to untie when needed.

Posted by Lorelei on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 at 4:50 PM

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Jeff Tucker!

Life is too short to spend it running from what makes you happy.

Posted by Jeff Tucker! on Wednesday, May 24, 2006 at 2:12 PM

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Crystal’s in Love!

instead of using rope, try using something sexy or “sensuous” so to speak. Something like a sash from your robe. And just start off with asking him to hold your hands above your head. and tell him you like it when he “overtakes” you. he might be more interested in it, if it turns into more of a power thing. initially, anyway. Make it seem like ur doing it for him. Hope that helps!! i am pretty new myself.. about 6 months or so. Good Luck!!

Posted by Crystal’s in Love! on Friday, June 02, 2006 at 2:32 PM

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Animal Instinct

As a man whose ex-wife used my enjoyment of BDSM to manipulate me, I can say that where sex is concerned, men are dogs (woof!). When she had done something to make me angry, she would go upstairs, place herself in bondage gear and call me up to have my way with her, offering to do “anything I wanted her to do…”. Somehow it was so much easier to forgive her in a smiling, sweaty state.
My suggestion for you to emulate her may not be sexually ethical, but here I believe the ends justify the means. You can tell him once you are bound you will do something he wants you to do but were reluctant to do unless helpless. If you give him a taste of your submission, how can he resist further exploration.
Start with simple items, like handcuffs and tape. Later on you can introduce each other to more complex restraints like chains and ballgags. Pantyhose and phone cords are good to use for those “spontaneous” bondage sessions when he can take you “by surprise”.
If Nike can get him to pay $300 for a pair of shoes, you should be able to get him to hogtie you without too much effort. Be well.
TxBondDom

Posted by Animal Instinct on Saturday, June 03, 2006 at 12:12 AM