Sunday, January 20, 2008
Current mood: thoughtful

First time I had a crush:
I was a faithful little girl. From kindergarten to 5th grade, I had a crush on a cute kid named Brian.

First serious crush (at that age you think you’re in love, but as an adult you look back and see two different levels of “love”):
12 years old or so. A friend of my sister’s came to the house to say bye to her. She wasn’t home. We hung out, spent several great hours together, I got my first romantic kiss, and then the next day he moved to Brazil. Misery!

First time I had a boyfriend:
13 years old, soon after I got breasts. After a few weeks, he broke up with me because I wouldn’t go to 3rd base.

First time I had an orgasm:
15 years old, in my brother’s closet (he had a cot in there) with a guy I met at music camp. He moved down to do cunnilingus and I was so turned on that he was willing to do that, that I came right when he got there. LOL! I even passed out from it.

First time I had sex:
16 years old, in the family’s Volvo, in the winter, inside a sleeping bag, with a Chinese-American musician. I think I rushed this stage a bit because after my first encounter with cunnilingus, I hadn’t found anybody else interested in doing it. I was noticing at that age that if you don’t have sex, guys ask for blow jobs, yet for some reason most of them don’t offer to reciprocate. I assumed that if you’re in a complete sexual relationship — having sex — that oral sex comes with the package. In my case this did turn out correct, but, I didn’t have any more orgasms. Bummer!

First time I had a girlfriend:
17 years old. The physical part didn’t last long, but I stayed friends with Terrie for many years after that. In fact, she’s the dyke gal you see in one of my first Bondage Life photos. It’s a black and white pic, she’s lying on a sofa, blindfolded, chains on her. Some people thought that pic was of a guy.

First time I seriously “fell in love”:
17 years old. We were together for about a year but most of it was rocky. It ended rather badly too. But he emailed me many years later, and we smoothed things over. I think it’s kinda nice as an adult to be able to get back in touch with people and do mutual apologies and settle the ol’ “we were young and stupid” thing.

First time I was in an orgy:
I don’t remember my age. Our little social group (nicknamed “The Commune”) had several group-sex things during my high school years. (There wasn’t a lot of parent presence at my house when I was a teen.)

First time with two guys:
21 or 22? My boyfriend of the time had a bi buddy who was interested in him. My boyfriend couldn’t work up any interest in a guy/guy encounter so he suggested a threesome instead. I had a very good time with this but since the guy was from out of town, we never got around to doing it again. Incidentally it takes a tremendous amount of work, patience, time, and physical arranging to get two cocks into one pussy. It doesn’t become a “sexy” moment until you’ve gotten all the technical stuff figured out. (I think we were fortunate that the friend was undersized because even as it was, I had some difficulties.)

First time consented to anal sex:
22 or so. We understood how to do it so it wouldn’t hurt me, and he was happy. But I just don’t find the idea sexy, so I haven’t done it since.

First time I orgasmed from sex:
23 or so, but this was an anomaly and hasn’t happened since. I come from very specific types of clitoral stimulation that are near-impossible to combine with fucking.

First time tied up during sex:
24. Even as into bondage as I am, it still was kinda scary — so we just did hands-in-front.

First time orgasmed tied up:
24. Hee :)

First time I figured out how to masturbate by hand:
I was dependent on vibrators for many years. I read a lot of stupid articles and books and advice about how to masturbate by hand, but none of it ever worked. I finally figured out how to do myself “au naturale” when I was about 30 years old.

First time I had multiple orgasms:
When I was in my early 30s, I think it was? It was just one of those things that simply happened (right time right place right everything, thanks Jon!) but I haven’t had another multiple-event like that since. But that’s okay, sequential orgasms are fun — I can generally manage them several minutes apart.

Well, looking back over this list, it’s funny that so many of my “firsts” were things that I only did once in my life. But it’s just nice to experience something and know what it was like, right? As long as I can keep repeating the tied-up-for-sex and tied-up-for-orgasms stuff, I’m happy.